Congratulations, Red-Oak !
Your name, your reputation, your title, your position, are enough to make each and every Dutch citizen shake like yellow leaves on autumn trees.
As after 24 hours our Elf friend has not responded, it means that she doesn't want her beautiful, touching and heartfelt letter to the Wiseman-by-the-Sea to be shared on our private blog. And so, we will respect her will and this letter won't be shared in the way I had suggested.
And I wish to say to our Elf friend that I am not disappointed, and entirely understand her reasons, that also may mirror the reasons for which other characters of this tale did not intervene.
The Elf friend knows us in person, but it is not the case of Yna, Little-Flute, the Lady, Green-Rose, etc. So their distrust, and their fear of the Earl, may be strong enough to have a real wall of silence.
To say it all, even Annelies is afraid of the Earl - of her own father's reactions. Red-Oak (and that's why I gave him this fictional name) is a person who has outbursts of anger (that he later control). To those who are scared of anger and confrontation, the wrath of the Earl is terrifying. That is one of the reasons that explains the trauma of Annelies. Annelies never dared to confront, or even discuss, the choices of her parents, because of the ease with which the Earl got angry, refusing any objection, any discussion, as he always thought to be right.
Had the Earl accepted quiet discussion, perhaps we wouldn't be where we are now.
The Earl, according to Annelies, has a deep anger problem. Outbursts that terrified her, and terrified Green-Rose, her mother, who resembles her, as Green-Rose is also very scared of confrontation. That is what pushed Green-Rose to fall into an avoidance pattern, that ended with her betrayal of the Earl. When a person has too strong a character, it can be very difficult for the shy / introvert / quiet persons around.
In the latest years, I have known this situation myself, at a smaller scale. Some persons in my family have this tendency to get angry very quickly. Some family members avoid any discussion with those who get angry very quickly and easily, because they have no patience for confrontation. I, rightly, or wrongly, sometimes choose to confront them, when I firmly believe them to be wrong. And it's not something easy to be done, because then, the anger of these family members fall upon me. But I firmly hold my ground. And at the end, our family mindset is to pardon, to make peace. So at the end excuses are made, and I often hear the words "you were right" (but for those words, it sometimes takes some time).
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